Silly things my son does... when hes sleeping

ok so i took my son to bed and i came back into the living room to do some homework i heard some moving around and talking like he was playing or someone was in the room so i was like ok hes up time to stop my homework but he never came in the living room. well like thirty minutes later i decided that it was time for be so i put every thing up and i walk over to his room to cover him up again and i start to freak out because he isnt in his bed and he wasnt on the floor so i go in his room and look in his closet... im practicly going crazy all over the house looking for him and go back into his room and i see him on the floor under his bed!!!!!!!!! i couldnt believe what i saw. it was so cute that i couldnt believe that he was actually under the bed. he is always getting off the bed and getting on the floor and even sleep walking but this was the first time that he has ever hidden in his sleep

after i found him with the light on

 

before with the light off. see you cant see him

its so cool that kids all have their own personality even when their sleeping.

people.

i just absolutely hate it when people try to compare their lives with yours. and its not just some things its everything. whose childhood was worse, whose kids are doing better or worse, whose kids are sicker, whose even has more money and what the hell even whose lost more babies and whose experience was worse. UGH i cannot stand it to the point that it makes me want to stay away from those people at all times but when their your friends or even your family. its always a competition between everyone whose better or even whose worse and its ridiculous.are girls really that vindictive? they cant be!! what hurts is that i used to not be that way but it feels like they are criticizing you and you just want to prove yourself and you end up being the same way towards them. ugh just had to vent about everything sorry lol

Fertility Drugs

Well my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant since January 2010. we got pregnant once in that time and i lost the baby. yesterday we went to see the doctor and he is putting us on fertility pills. the biggest concern was multiples we have one child can we really handle two more? emotionally: having one newborn and a toddler is going to be hard enough but having two newborns and a toddler. i don't know if i am sane enough to handle that. but i do know that i all we can do is do our best. thats pretty much anyone can do. its been so hard for us to have one it will be an absolute blessing to have two. especially if nothing goes wrong the entire time. Financially: we can defiantly have the financial capability to take care of two more babies although it will be difficult. the staying at home will have to end because i will probably have to get a job to make some extra money. we will just have to see how things play out before we actually start worrying about everything.

now for the drug that our doctor put us one. its called Clomiphene 

after i start my period i take this pill for five days to help produce more of the hormones that trigger ovulation and telling my ovaries to produce a mature egg...sometimes more than one depending on your normal ovulation cycle. 

the side effects... oh the side effects selling of the ovaries, stomach pain, breast tenderness, insomnia, nausea, vomiting, blurred vision, headaches, fatigue, irritability, depression, weight gain, and ovarian cysts. and those are just the minor side effects. 

chance of conceiving twins is 10%. and sometimes triplets but it is less frequent. that means that 1 out of 10 people that  use this pill have twins!!!!!! wow. yeah i know but our doctor says in 30 years of doing this he hasn't had anyone have twins so thats good right. i think so.

the success rates: 80% of women ovulate within the first three months of taking these pills of those 80%, 40% of those actually get pregnant. hopefully i will be one of those 40%.

for the brand name Clomid the cost is at least $50. 

for the off brand Clomiphene the cost is more around $20 

well see how this fertility process goes in October.

Potty Training

I think that kids who are ready to be potty trained will let you know. today me and my son were at the w.i.c office, the lady and i were talking about my miscarriage and my son walks up to the door and says momma caca (his dad taught him that) the w.i.c lady looks at me and tells me to take him i turn to her and say "oh he doesn't know how to use the potty very well yet. we have just been successful a handful of times" she nods and we continue our previous conversation a few minutes later she looks at me and says "i'm pretty sure he did caca" sure enough after he told me he did it. he knew it was coming and i didn't believe that he would actually know when he would do it. hes only 21 months old hes to young to be a big boy.

but time for the potty, right.
some may think so and i have heard lots of different opinions on when the right time is for your child to be potty trained. some say 2yrs some say 16months and others say 2.5yrs. i don't know what kind of parent i am but since my son was born i have gone with the flow. i fed him when he was hungry i changed him when it was time he napped when he wanted to. so no matter what he decides when hes ready to get potty trained he lets me know and i work off of his q's.

one article that i read that was my favorite one about potty training. follow these simple steps to help know when to potty train you child.
1. show them how its done, let him follow you into the bathroom and daddy too so he can see how you and daddy go potty.
2. when he notices that he is pooping or peeing start showing him his own potty.
3. don't try to make him potty every time he has to pee. only try to get him on the potty when he is gonna poop because its a lot easier to predict and pee is random.
4. his body know when hes ready and when he knows you will know too.
5. usually toddlers have control of their bowels at 2years old and some kids know will know and understand what his happening when they have a bowel movement earlier than that.

Each child is different and you cant compare your child to another child. i think that children are ready to be potty trained anywhere from 16months to 3 years old.

tell me what you think about potty training and if you have any funny potty experiences.

I'm back... with some sad news.

well i am back Ive been away for a while..

let me tell you what happened. well since we have been trying to get pregnant since January something amazing happened.... i got a positive pregnancy test after many negative ones!!!! yay right. well i noticed some sharp pains in my lower right side a week before i found out i was pregnant and a week after finding out i was pregnant  i had some really light spotting... the next day the bleeding was heavier and darker. i went to the Dr to make sure everything was OK. it wasn't. the doctor did a sono and couldn't see anything. i was having a miscarriage! the doctor told me i had three options. 1. get a second opinion. (No) 2. go home and wait it out. 3. go to the hospital and have a D&C. i decided to go home. i didnt want to be in a hospital so we decided to go home. the pain i was in emotionally and physically wasnt worth it. it was painful yes but the emotional pain made it a million times worse. after 9 months of trying to have it taken away yes it was hard and i didnt want to go through it so we decided to go to the hospital and have the surgery.

its been two weeks since all this happened. its still hard to think about but its time for me to move on and prepare myself mentally to try again. i feel like i need to jus clear my mind and realize that things get better.
my husband helped me get over it he stayed with me the entire week that i didnt want to eat or get out of bed he helped me heal by buying me a little white teddy bear that we are going to use to represent the baby we lost. were excited to move forward and to start trying again.
some people may think that some thing like this shouldnt be something hard to get over but when you have been through it you know what its like you know how hard it is. its a life, you got excited about it, you were ready to see it grow, you were ready for the baby. that little life got taken away from you and it isnt coming back. things do get better...but it will be hard.

can you believe this!!!!!!!!!!!! TODDLER LIKES TO THROW THINGS

I got this email the other day and this really bothered me.

Toddler Likes to Throw Things
Question: Our son is a month from being two. We’re concerned about his throwing. During a recent dinner out, he threw a fork that whizzed by a lady’s head just missing her eye. I took a building block to the lip the other day and Grandma got a metal car on the forehead. The articles I’ve read just say throwing is a way of exploring cause/effect relationships. We’ve tried consistent timeouts, redirecting, ignoring, and getting down to his level and telling him “No!” His throwing just keeps getting worse. He starts school in August and I’m anticipating a lot of incident reports. Any suggestions?



Answer: I first have to ask why otherwise intelligent people would go into a restaurant with a not quite two-year-old who has a habit of throwing things at people? Would you take a dog that bites people to a park and let it off the leash? Can you say “common sense?”
I should not need to tell you that until the aerial assaults stop, you need, for the public good, to keep your son out of places where he can pick up solid objects and wing them at unsuspecting strangers. In that event, the cause/effect just might be the following: injury/lawyers. (To be perfectly clear, I don’t think toddlers should be allowed in restaurants that have wait staffs (meaning all but the fast food sort) even if they don’t throw things.)
Yes, two-year-olds are known for throwing things. And yes, throwing is a way of exploring cause and effect, but the most immediate and fascinating effect in this case is that everyone gets upset. That’s the payoff.
You tell me you’ve tried “consistent time outs,” but then you tell me you’ve also tried several other consequences, including ignoring. What, pray tell, is consistent about that? And even if you did use time out consistently it probably wouldn’t stop the throwing. Time out (a few minutes in a chair) is the weakest disciplinary consequence ever invented. It works with kids who are already well-behaved. Furthermore, time out does not work when the misbehavior in question is above 2 on a scale of 1 to 10, and throwing things at people is at least an 8, regardless of the thrower’s age.
When he throws something, or even acts like he’s thinking about throwing something, you need to put him in his room and gate him in there for at least fifteen minutes—thirty minutes is not too long for a child this age. If he’s too strong for a gate, then cut the door in half, re-hang it, and turn the knob around so it can be locked from the outside. If neither of you is skilled enough with tools to do that, then contribute to some handyman’s standard of living.
When you put him in his room, you must do so without the slightest show of emotion, as if you’re just following a formula. You needn’t even say “No!” He’s a smart kid, I’ll wager. He’ll get the message. If he screams for the entire fifteen minutes, so be it. The experience will not scar him, I assure you. It will, however, make an impression, however slowly.
When his time is up, just let him out. Don’t lecture him or try to make him confess/apologize. Just let him out and go your merry way, prepared to do the same thing the next time an incident occurs. Consistently done, I predict this will cure his throwing in no more than six weeks. Even then, no restaurants for another two years. Okay?
Family psychologist John Rosemond answers parents’ questions on his website at www.rosemond.com.



first of all it's considered child abuse to leave ur child in time out longer than your childs age. A min for every year. This author is dumb no restaurant for two year olds ha. I don't mind other ppl that go out and they have toddlers sitting next to us even if they ar screaming and if some one minds mine they can go sit somewhere else! and my advise in a public and non public situation, public keep things away from him and if he throws what he's eatin take it away and ask are you going to eat or throw it? Then say you ned to eat or I'm taking it away again. It worked for my toddler positive side no more messy floors when he eats. Do that with everything. At home if he throws something timeout and tell him if ur going to throw stuff ur going to sit here. Over and over again. not telling a toddler what they did wrong will only confuse the heck out of them. you need to talk to them to let them know what is going on any why they are getting in trouble. what do you think???

FUNNY MOMMENTS

So Kaedin has been trying to dress himself lately. today he did two things i didn't think he would be able to do for a while. he put his shirt on and he put a shoe on... I'm not going to say that he did it right but at least he tried. he put his head and his left arm in the correct hole but he put his left arm in the head hole. he put his shoe on the wrong foot but he still put it one and he was walking around trying to put his other foot in the other shoe but it was backwards. hes growing up so fast he wants to do things on his own and he acts like he doesn't need me anymore. i know that he does and i know that he is a big boy and he loves to explore his environment and see what everything is all about.
he saw his daddy fixing something and he steals one of his daddy's screw drivers and tries to fix his toys like daddy's fixing his. hes so funny. I LOVE MY SON